This song comes from a place where I kept trying to understand what was happening, while something else was being asked of me. When emotions got stronger, I would step back and try to make sense of them — slow things down, find clarity, put things into words.
But what was needed in those moments wasn’t understanding. It was presence. And I didn’t always recognize that.
While I was trying to connect through meaning, the connection was happening somewhere else — in the feeling itself. We weren’t actually far apart in what we needed or wanted. But we kept missing each other in how and when we reached for it.
The more I tried to make things right, the more out of sync it felt. Over time, something in me started to withdraw — quietly, without deciding to. Not because I stopped caring, but because I couldn’t find a way to meet you where you were, and didn’t know how to let you meet me where I was.
Out of Time holds that space — where both people are still trying, but no longer able to reach each other in the same moment.
Lyrics
Out Of Time
[Verse 1]
You ask me why I’m quiet now
Standing in the kitchen light
Your voice still reaching for me
Mine already somewhere else tonight
I say I don’t know
You say I pull away
But I’ve been drifting slowly
For longer than I can say
[Pre-Chorus]
It didn’t break between us
It just stopped holding tight
[Chorus]
We never lean together
At the same time
You reach when I am closing
I speak when you go quiet
We keep trying to find it
But something won’t align
And somewhere in the silence
We are falling out of time
[Verse 2]
You get louder when it matters
I go softer, disappear
Something in me folding in
When it all gets too clear
I turn it over slowly
Every word, every tone
Trying to understand it
While losing sense of my own
[Pre-Chorus]
We are both still reaching
Just missing every time
[Chorus]
We never lean together
At the same time
You reach when I am closing
I speak when you go quiet
We keep trying to find it
But something won’t align
And somewhere in the silence
We are falling out of time
[Bridge]
I stop saying what I feel
The way I see it land
I keep my truth inside me
Instead of reaching out again
You say I’m growing distant
I think you feel it too
We’re standing in the same place
But seeing something different through
[Final Chorus]
We never leaned together
At the same time
You held on in your way
While I let go of mine
We were both still in it
Just not in the same light
And somewhere in the silence
We both stopped trying to fight
[Outro]
And I still understand you
More than I let on
Some things don’t fall apart
They just don’t hold for long